There’s one word that should stay out of the mouth of anyone who wants to be successful in any aspect of their life. It’s a word that we all have said at least once in our lives; most probably say it daily. It’s a word that causes people to create self-imposed limitations—which are poison in their own right. This word can ruin days, weeks, relationships, and if you let it, it can even ruin your life. It’s much simpler than what you’re thinking. The word is can’t. The more you think you can’t, the more likely it is that you won’t and you never will; however, the more you think you can, the less likely you will fail.
There are certainly things in life that we just can’t do right away. That’s why it’s important to set ambitious, yet realistic goals for yourself. Often times we set goals that are so far out of reach that we get discouraged and quit before we even get started. It’s okay to aim high, but remember that you might have to pursue smaller goals in order to get to the larger ones. It’s like a staircase. Your intention is to reach the top, but each step enables you to get there.
People think that the path to success is always in a straight line. However, we regularly face road blocks, head winds, side impacts, and we lack the gas in the tank to get us to where we want to go. Not every step will always go as you plan. Minor issues might challenge you, making you feel discouraged. Discouragement doesn’t mean that you can’t get to where you’re headed. It simply means that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone into unknown territory. Instead of turning that into doubt and defeat, turn it into will to make it to where you want to go. If the path to the success was a straight shot to the top, nobody would ever feel the reward of reaching it. The more turbulence along the way, the more gratifying it is when you get there. But you won’t experience that gratification unless you believe you can.
Anyone who has ever been successful can account for how testing, yet fulfilling their journey was. What all these successful people have in common is keeping can’t out of their vocabulary. Try to be conscious of how often you say that you can’t. Even if you replace half the can’t dos with can dos, you’re already climbing your own set of stairs. The “I can” turns into “I will” and then, “I did”. Then you start on your next staircase. Henry Ford once said, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right. Which one are you?” Put some thought into which one you are and which one you can become.