It’s a common desire to want to change and transform what we see in the mirror. We constantly have an ideal image that we’re trying to reach and we’ll go through drastic measures to get there. It’s only normal. We are flooded with images of beautiful women who look like they were made in a laboratory almost everywhere we look. What if we focused on something other than appearance? Think about all the amazing things your body is capable of, instead of what it looks like. When you stop obsessing over how your body looks and start focusing on what it can do for you, some amazing transformations take place. It’s hard to just turn off the switch in your mind that craves the visual change. Here’s a few helpful ingredients to help you transition.
1st ingredient: Stop obsessing.
Often times, we have the visual of what we want to look like, and when we look at what we actually look like we begin obsessing.
Obsessing will get you nowhere. The time you waste obsessing over how you could look wastes precious time you could be spending actually doing something about it. Next time you look in the mirror and begin tearing yourself apart, take a deep breath and accept it. The faster you do that, the quicker you start being productive instead of obsessing and wishing.
2nd ingredient: Set some goals.
You’re not going to get anywhere wishing you could be something that you’re not willing to put in some work for. That’s why it’s important to set some manageable, realistic goals. I’m not saying to set goals to look like Jennifer Aniston or Jessica Biel in a few weeks. Set goals in the gym that allow you to do things that you enjoy! If you don’t like lifting, don’t lift. If you HATE running, don’t run. Set goals that pull you out of your comfort zone and give you a fun challenge. The awesome part about this is when you reach these goals, you gain a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment that only makes you want to set more goals for yourself. It becomes a positive cycle.
3rd ingredient: Quit limiting yourself.
Some things we just can’t do right away, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But just because it doesn’t happen overnight doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. It goes back to setting manageable, realistic goals. If you set a goal that you know you can easily reach, there’s no sense of accomplishment at the end. However, if you set a goal that you would be amazed to reach and you reach it, you gain confidence. When you limit yourself from the start, you will never know what you are truly capable of. If you reach outside your comfort zone and don’t get to where you want to be, you can work at it until you’re there. Nine times out of ten, limits are something we set in place as an excuse to not even get started.
4th ingredient: Don’t let food control you.
Sometimes when we are discouraged with our bodies, we take it to the kitchen. We abuse and poison our bodies because we feel bad about ourselves. It ends up turning into a terrible cycle of constant defeat and shame. You take one step forward and then eight step backwards. So many sources will tell you to eat this or that or diet this way or that way. Don’t obsess over this either. All you have to do is eat clean whole foods and if you need to splurge, do it sparingly. Be conscious of what you’re eating, and eat things that improve your performance and make you feel better. Sometimes it’s helpful to use a journal so you can get a good grasp on what you’re actually consuming. I can guarantee that you feel like garbage after your eat a plate full of triple cheddar bacon mac and cheese, a double chocolate milkshake, or whatever your guilty pleasures might be. Once you start eating clean whole foods, your performance improves and you no longer crave foods that do absolutely nothing for you.
5th ingredient: Enjoy the shift in mind.
When you stop focusing on the way your body looks, something extraordinary happens to your mind. You become focused on your goals instead of the reflection staring back at you in the mirror. The best part of it all is the person you see in the mirror has completely changed too. You see a strong and capable person. You see someone that has set goals and completely crushed them. You believe you can do more, so you do do more. It’s not a battle to see a smaller number on the scale, or a shrinking reflection, it’s a mission to find new challenging goals to demolish. Even when you fall short, you continue working towards it because you know that you can get there through persistence.
6th ingredient: It’s no longer about how you look.
You’ve worked hard and your body will be a direct reflection of that. You likely look fit and athletic. But, at this point you don’t really care. You know you look better; but more importantly, you know you feel better than you did before you started and probably ever have. You’re doing things that you never thought you’d be able to. This is all a result of focusing on what you’re capable of and not what you look like.
Take the six ingredients and start creating the best recipe you’ll ever make in your life. It doesn’t take long to start to feel a difference. By taking the leap, you’re already half way there. It has worked for me, and I know that it can work for you if you just give it a shot!
I’ve looked in the mirror and hated what I saw. I’ve considered myself a victim because people made me feel like I wasn’t worth anything. But, I discovered that the only person I was a victim to was myself. Instead of trying to prove something to others I should have been proving to myself that I could. I sat back and watched opportunities come and go because I lacked the courage to even step up to the plate. I’ve been discouraged, and even hated myself. I had lost weight before, and the only thing that mattered to me was what was on the outside. I finally had enough and decided to do something about it. After I had my son, I knew there needed to be a serious change. I used all of these ingredients in the last year and I can honestly say that I’m nowhere near the same person I used to be. And it’s awesome.